About 4 years ago, when I educated myself on narcissism, control and manipulation, I came across a letter on the internet written by a narcissist to his “prey/victim” or as I prefer calling them “survivor/warrior”. 

When I read through the letter, I felt shocked and almost speechless. Speechless in a sense that they want you to fail, they want you to lose. It is all a game to them. It was so dark and I could feel the heavy energy attached to each and every word. 

How many times have we said or thought: What else is there to come and to deal with in life? How many times have sighed and said: Why me? I think we can all associate with that.

It is a matter of perception. Why not turn it around and say: Try me!

How do you smash the fear? 

When we are born, we are born with two natural fears: 1. the fear of noise and 2. the fear of being dropped. 

Over time when we start out in the world and we get experience our under belts, more an more fear starts to build up. Of course, the natural fear of standing a tiger eye to eye is not a good idea and to feel fear then is very normal.

…the content is important. 

The cup is the external world…the world we let others see, the world we present to others, the world where we can see all the shiny things. We know that shiny things can blind us.  

In many cases people get admired for all the shiny things they posses and other people have to deal with envy and jealousy from others because these people had the courage to step outside their comfort zone and go for their dreams and they made them come true because they believed in themselves and their success. 

Does the below or similar resonate with you?

“As she is driving home, she feels some anger inside her, she can feel disappointment inside her, she simply feels rubbish. What a day!…

Running and rushing around, comments collected from the day racing through her head. She is trying to push them away but it’s not working. She feels a failure, she feels let down! She feels emotional, she’s simply fed up!

Life can be like a jigsaw… and if you have ever tried a jigsaw, it is time consuming and it can be frustrating.

Life changes and all of a sudden, your life becomes a huge jigsaw with millions of pieces in front of you, then the task is to put the pieces in the right places, so the picture becomes clear – so you understand why you experienced what you experienced purposefully. Putting a million pieces in place requires a lot of patience and dedication. Times when you try to force a certain piece in and other times you feel like getting a pair of scissors out to cut the piece to size, but you never would, would you. This mistake would always stand out in the picture for you, even if for others it would look perfect – YOU would always know, your focus would go straight to that “misconstruction”.

This negative self-talk keeps us holding back and is an inconvenient distraction and certainly not helpful when we want to try something new. 

You become disillusioned when you don’t succeed straightaway. Have you ever experienced that?

How can we ignore this nagging voice inside our minds?

SHE has fought many battles by herself and SHE is still standing.
SHE is an enigma to many people.

SHE has a lot of scars from those battles fought. But SHE knows that every scar is a victory.
SHE can see through people and their deceptions and lies.
SHE can be trusted because she trusts herself.