The client found herself in the same relationship pattern. Attracting people who were unable to commit long term. It started off well and excitement was present everywhere. After 3 months, the excitement changed, and the contact became less and less. She started to chase because her nervous system rang alarm bells. Her subconscious mind tried to get her attention through making her uncomfortable and feeling anxious of being left. We explored her subconscious mind and it transpired that she was not broken. She replayed an old childhood memory, as this was familiar to her nervous system. She was not broken to attract someone who actually wanted her and wanted to stay with her. She realised that she needed to attract relationships where she mattered and where she was welcome. She started to recognise that she was worthy of being committed to.
Recognition: She wasn’t looking for partners who weren’t available. Her nervous system was making things feel familiar again until value and safety changed. She believed that commitment needs to be earned.